As grandparents, we love to spoil our grandkids. And we often can help them to the point where they can become reliant on us. But if you want them to grow up to be the best they can be in life, you need to encourage them to be independent.
After all, you and their parents aren’t going to be around forever. And your grandkids will need to stand on their own two feet if they are going to be successful.
Therefore, here are some ways you can help your grandchildren to grow up to be self-reliant.
Assist, not take over with homework
It’s common for grandkids to ask you to help them with homework they need to do for class. After all, they might need it doing for the next day. And if they are spending time at yours, you will have to help them.
But a lot of people go wrong by taking over rather than just assisting when it comes to homework. But if you do take over, your grandchild is never going to learn how to do the work themselves. And they might get reliant on you to help them every time.
Therefore, instead of taking over, ask them what they think they need to do. And then try and guide them in the right direction, so they end up with the correct answer. Not only will it help them to develop their thought process, but it will make it easier for them to do the work in the future!
Teach them the basic cooking skills they need
A lot of kids grow up and head off to college without even knowing basic cooking skills. And while this can be down to the parents, as grandparents we need to take responsibility too.
After all, when we are constantly cooking for them, they can become so reliant. Therefore, when they are on their own, they struggle to cope. In fact, some youngsters can’t even cook a boiled egg when they get to college!
So this doesn’t happen, it’s time to teach them the necessary skills they need while they are young. For example, when it comes to cooking, you should show them how to cook basic meals. Let them have a go at following recipes and stand by and monitor them. They will pick up valid skills they can use as they get older.
And show them how to prepare foods like fruit and vegetables too. You could even teach them how to grow their own fruit and veg, so that it can help them to appreciate how to do it when they are older.
And then they can be self-reliant as they get older when it comes to cooking and taking care of themselves.
Allow them to take responsibility and make decisions
It’s so easy for you to make decisions for your grandkids. For example, you might decide what you are going to make when you are having a craft day or even a baking day.
But if you want to ensure they make their own decisions, you should let them choose what to do. Not only will it boost their creative skills, but it will ensure they take responsibility for themselves too which is key for being self-reliant.
And remember to always be careful when it comes to money. As much as you want to treat your grandkids, don’t let them become reliant on you for money as they grow up!
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