Your home is always a huge part of your life. Where you live really does make a difference to your life.
If you know that you are unhappy in your home right now, then you should definitely start to think about what will make you happy. Sometimes, this all boils down to the style of house that you live in. And that can often feel easier to fix, because you can redecorate or even move into a new place that you know is going to feel more ‘you’. But that won’t always do it. Sometimes, you need to go on a step further from that and make sure that you’re living in the right area too.
1. What You Don’t Like About Where You Live Now
So the very first thing you need to do here, is to really pinpoint what it is that you don’t like about where you live right now. If you don’t do this, and you just start to look for somewhere else, you may find that you end up in the exact same situation. So sit down and really think about what you don’t like or what the issues are, so that you can be very aware of avoiding them in the future.
2. What Areas You’re Interested In
Then, now that you know what you don’t like, you should start to think about what you’re interested in. And it can feel like it’s really hard to find the best place to live. But by thinking about the places that come to mind, and then looking into them a little more, you’ll start to create a list of where might be appropriate.
3. The Local Amenities That Are Important To You
At the same time, you’re going to want to think about the important local amenities that matter the most to you. This can be kind of the flipside of what you don’t want. Because maybe there are so many different things that you could be near, and that will make you so much happier wherever you are. So write them down, and you also have a bit of a checklist of what you’re working towards too.
4. Whether It’s The Area Or The Country
If you really want to break this down even further, it’s going to help you if you can work out whether it’s the area that you live in, or even the country! Now, for a lot of people, this can be a big step that won’t even be on their radar. But there are some people out there that have always wanted to travel or live abroad - and this could be the real reason that you’re unhappy. So really work out if it’s the area of the country that you’re unhappy with, or the country itself.
5. Researching Different Counties
So from here, you’ll then want to think about the different countries that you could live in. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to live in the USA or Asia? Well then, if you’re really serious about relocating, it’s time to do some research into these countries. Or maybe your husband wants to relocate for work - as this can also be something that comes up? Again, research can help you to work out if it’s something that would work for you.
6. As Well As Different Areas & Properties
From here, you also need to be thinking about the different areas and the kind of properties that you like in that country. So whether this is the different HDB estates in Singapore like Tampines, or chose of East or West coasts in the United States. Make sure that you know exactly where you might like to be.
7. Researching Expats & Local Communities
It may also be useful for you to look into local communities of expats so that you can settle in well. Here, sites like InterNations are great options. You can often speak to others before you move so that you can get a good sense of what the area is like.
8. Thinking About Working
If you’re going to get practical about all of this, then you definitely do need to be sure that you’re thinking about work. Whether this is just you, or your husband too. If you’re relocating internationally or across the country and it is not for work, you will want to work out what you want to do about your job or working situation before you jump in.
9. Considering Schools
And, you’ll also want to spend some time looking into local schools too. This could even help you to work out exactly which area you want to be in, based on how good the schools are.
10. Working Out The Cost
Another deciding factor can be the costs. You may want to use point twelve to help you here, but you will want to work out what the cost of relocating will be, to know if you can afford it.
11. Visiting The Different Areas
Then, as you’re really starting to get smart about this, you need to visit the areas that you’re thinking of. And yes, even if they are overseas - especially if they are overseas. Visiting a city before you move there is really useful in terms of allowing you to see if it’s really somewhere that you want to be. Make sure that you book yourself an AirBnB so that you can get a feel for living in a home and what life might be like there.
12. Working Out The Logistics
On a more practical sense, you’re going to want to be sure that you can work out the logistics of moving. Now, this can seem complicated if it’s across the country, but it can be even harder when you’re moving overseas. So be sure that you are looking into movers, what things you can ship and what you can, and how actually doing this will work.
13. Being Mostly Sure
Now, you’re then going to want to make sure that this is what you want. AND what your family wants too. Maybe you want to move to be happier, or your husband wants to move for a job - no matter what the reason is, you all need to agree. This will only ever work, and you’ll all only ever be happy, if you can sure that you’ve make the right decision. So definitely talk about this openly, and be sure that you’re on the same page and ready to do this.
So there you have it! Now that you’ve worked through some of the key things that you need to consider, it’s time to work out whether or not this is something you want to do. Even if it seems scary or being a big change, you’ll know whether this is right for you when you do go through each step.
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