We all want to teach our children healthy habits, good manners and life skills. But sometimes, life gets in the way. Situations occur and problems arise. While upsetting, this is sometimes inevitable. What is important is how you, as a parent, deal with the obstacle.
So, whether your child is unhappy, overweight or struggling academically, here are 3 last resorts to consider.
If the child is unhappy
As parents, we will do our best to cheer up unhappy children. But what if this just isn’t working? Many of us consider counselling to be a thing that only adults might need or want. But in fact, there are many reasons why it is just as good a course of action for children. Children too can really benefit from having someone to talk with.
It could be that your child has suffered a trauma. This might have been severe bullying or a death in the family. It could be something less extreme but still potentially upsetting, like the loss of a pet or a house move. Alternatively, it could be a reason you’re not yet sure about. Instead, you might just be able to sense that they are unhappy, or out of sorts of their usual behaviour.
From the minor to the extreme, it doesn’t necessarily matter why they need help, or not at this stage anyway. What matters is getting them that help. The why, and the cure, can then come.
When it comes to choosing a counsellor, it can be tricky. If at all possible, pick somebody who specialises in child counselling. Ask about their methods too. While some will just talk with them, others will use creative arts methods. They might ask them to draw a picture to show how they’re feeling, or to write a song. These methods can be very effective and reveal a lot about both the child and the problems they’re having.
If the child is overweight
As with unhappy children, if your child is overweight, chances are you’ll be trying your best to help. However, what should you do if the diet you’re imposing isn’t working effectively? What if there are other factors that are preventing them from losing weight. Obesity in children is extremely dangerous, and can have a negative impact on all sorts of different facets of life. A last resort in this situation could be a fat camp for kids. Here they can lose weight in a nurturing and understanding environment, around other children.
If the child is struggling academically
If your child is struggling academically it could be for a number of reasons. However, what about it they are being relentlessly bullied, and attempts to stop it have failed? What about if the school is a bad one, and the teachers and facilities are sub-par? And what about if the environment isn’t one that is nurturing for them? In these cases, you might consider the last resort of having them move schools.
One alternative could be to move them to another school in your district. This is likely to be the less disruptive, and the less financially challenging for you. Another alternative is to consider home-schooling. Alternatively, if you can afford to, how about having them try out a year at a private school? Private schools are able to offer better teachers, facilities, opportunities and experiences.
These things may help your child blossom.
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